Embracing PMDD: How Understanding My Journey Transformed My Life and Leadership

Today changed everything for me. After years of confusion, emotional upheaval, and feeling misunderstood, I finally received a diagnosis that explained the intense emotional shifts I experienced every month: PMDD. This is not just bad PMS or overreacting. It is a real, clinical condition that clarified the chaos that once took me out without warning.

Receiving this diagnosis did not break me. Instead, it grounded me. It was like someone handed me a missing chapter of my life and said, “Here is why.” Suddenly, every moment of feeling “too much” or losing myself made sense. My body was telling the truth all along.

Later that same day, something else happened that confirmed this new clarity. A team meeting went smoothly, effortlessly even. The energy was clear, no tension, no stepping on toes. Everyone contributed and listened. For the first time, my team felt whole.

This post shares how understanding PMDD reshaped my life and leadership, and how it gave me the tools to lead with clarity and confidence.

What PMDD Really Means

Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder (PMDD) is often misunderstood. It is not just mood swings or irritability before a period. PMDD causes severe emotional and physical symptoms that disrupt daily life. These symptoms can include:

• Intense mood swings

• Deep sadness or hopelessness

• Heightened sensitivity to stress

• Difficulty concentrating

• Physical symptoms like fatigue and headaches

  
  

For years, I thought these symptoms were just part of being emotional or stressed. I was told I was overreacting or being dramatic. But PMDD is a medical condition recognized by health professionals. Understanding this gave me permission to stop blaming myself and start seeking support.

How Diagnosis Changed My Perspective

Getting a name for what I was experiencing gave me context. It explained why sheer willpower was never enough to “pull it together.” It explained why I sometimes felt like I was losing myself every month. This knowledge shifted my mindset from self-criticism to self-compassion.

I began to track my symptoms, noticing patterns and triggers. This helped me prepare and manage my energy better. For example, I started scheduling demanding tasks during my more stable days and allowing myself grace during difficult times.

This new awareness also helped me communicate with others. Instead of hiding my struggles, I could explain what I was going through. This openness built trust and understanding with my colleagues and friends.

A calm workspace with a notebook and pen on a wooden desk

Finding calm and clarity in a simple workspace

How Understanding PMDD Improved My Leadership

The same day I received my diagnosis, I led a team meeting that felt different. The energy was clear, and everyone was aligned. This was no coincidence. Understanding my condition helped me lead without masking or doubting myself.

Here are some ways this understanding improved my leadership:

• Clear communication: I could express my needs and boundaries honestly.

• Emotional regulation: I recognized when my emotions were influenced by PMDD and adjusted my responses.

• Team alignment: I encouraged open dialogue, allowing everyone to contribute without tension.

• Self-awareness: I knew when to step back and recharge, preventing burnout.

  
  

This experience showed me that leadership is not about perfection but about authenticity and balance.

Practical Tips for Managing PMDD in Daily Life

If you suspect you might have PMDD or want to support someone who does, here are some practical steps based on my journey:

• Track your cycle: Use a journal or app to note emotional and physical symptoms.

• Seek professional help: Consult a healthcare provider for diagnosis and treatment options.

• Build a support network: Share your experience with trusted friends, family, or colleagues.

• Practice self-care: Prioritize rest, nutrition, and gentle exercise.

• Set boundaries: Learn to say no and manage your workload according to your energy levels.

• Communicate openly: Explain your needs to your team or loved ones to foster understanding.

  
  

These steps helped me regain control and find balance.

Moving Forward with Hope and Clarity

Today marked a turning point. My diagnosis gave me context. The successful meeting gave me confirmation. My team gave me alignment. I walked away feeling seen by my body, supported by my team, and in control of my future.

This new chapter is about claiming my story without shame or doubt. It is about leading with clarity and compassion, both for myself and others. If you are on a similar journey, know that understanding your experience can transform your life and leadership too.

Take the time to listen to your body, seek support, and embrace your truth. Your journey matters, and with the right tools, you can find balance and hope.